Nesting is a type of living arrangement some families adapt to during and after divorce. The concept of nesting is that the children remain in the family home while the parents take turns caring for and living with them. Parents maintain a separate residence outside of the home when they are not on parenting duty. This is a style of parenting that requires a great deal of parental cooperation and is best suited to a co-parenting situation.
Advantages to bird’s nest parenting
Bird’s nest parenting is advantageous for parents and children alike:
- Less disruption to children — Children who are already dealing with the many stressors associated with their parents’ divorce feel some sense of security by remaining in their home. The familiarity of their surroundings can provide comfort and reduce anxiety in a situation that can be emotionally taxing for children.
- Lower costs — The expense of furnishing and maintaining two homes suitable for children can be exorbitant. When children nest, the parents require only a modest home when they are not parenting that can be a great deal less expensive.
- Lower stress — When children are not required to disrupt their routine during the parents’ divorce, the parents are more available to spend quality time with their children and address issues that might need attention.
- Better communication between parents — The adults have frequent opportunities to exchange information about their children as they switch parenting times. This enables both parents to stay better apprised of each child’s needs and be more aware of problems as they arise.
Nesting is designed to be a temporary measure as children adjust to their parents’ divorce. In most cases nesting ends when the couple sells the family home or when a new partner comes on the scene. Nesting is not for everyone — it requires a great deal of contact between parents. If you are divorcing and require advice on the creation of a working co-parenting plan, a Florida divorce attorney is available to help.